Ask Camille: In Good Taste

My question is regarding oral sex, specifically on my girlfriend. We have fun playing (she gives great BJs), but when she wants me to go down on her, I can't do it. I've always fantasized about eating a girl out, but when I try on her, I can't because her pussy just has a bad taste. I've licked her clit, which she enjoys, but she wants me to full on stick my tongue in her pussy. Any advice Camille? I like the idea of eating her out, but her pussy just doesn't taste good.

Hmmmm...  Well, I can certainly see how that's a confusing situation.  Before you go ahead and assume the worst, I do have to ask...  Is this the first woman you've ever given oral sex to?  If so, I think it's possible you're just not accustomed to it.  Just like most other things, it's an acquired taste and the more you're able to associate it with giving tremendous pleasure, the less you'll think about it.

That said, it's entirely possible that's not the situation whether or not she's the first woman you've tasted.  Your feelings on the issue are important, but you definitely need to keep hers in mind as well, lest she feel shame about her body. That's the root of a lot of sexual problems.

There are a few really good things in this situation:  you fantasize about eating her out, you've done things to make her feel good and she is a very giving and skilled lover as well.  That's all great!  It's important to keep all these things in mind when you're dealing with this.

Generally speaking, my advice for anyone with this concern is to include a shower as part of foreplay.  Find the sensuality in showering together.  Watch her as she washes and see how beautiful she looks, all wet and clean.  Lather each other up and maybe start licking her while you're there, feeling the water drip along her body while you start to explore her deeply.  Playfully towel off together and hurry to bed, excited to taste even more.

The key is not only to make her think that you like showering before sex because it'll spare her feelings, but to really embrace it and enjoy it.  Of course, showering isn't always an option, and sometimes you might just have to focus on giving pleasure.  Remembering that she's aroused, she's feeling comfortable with you and she's loving what you're doing is a great thing to do.

If you're better sticking with licking her clit, do that.  It clearly makes her feel good.  When it works for you, go deeper, but don't feel pressured to do that all the time.  As much as this is about her pleasure, you matter as well and it's important to keep that in mind.

As much as possible, just try to not bring up the issue.  That said, if you are concerned that there might be an infection at play, it's best to discuss that.  Sometimes it's just something minor that can be cleared up pretty easily, but it's best to get checked out if there's any concern.  Outside of that, though, try to be sensitive to her and make her feel sexy...  It's the best way to handle any situation.

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Camille Crimson is not a doctor. This column is for informational and entertainment purposes only. For more advice, head over to the Ask Camille archive.