It’s Not a Cuckold by Jacky St. James

Ok. So a few months ago I discovered this whole new world of Hotwifing. Not in my personal life. I’m not nearly that adventurous or sexually exciting. I did it for work. My boss asked me to do a movie about people that “hotwife” for a new line our studio is doing called Tales from the Edge.

Hotwifing is when husbands encourage, promote, and get off on giving their wives full reign to have sex with another man. This isn’t what some people more commonly think of as swinging and it’s not something akin to a “hall pass.” No, hotwifing is a whole other fantastic beast. Hotwifing is usually (not always) a carefully laid out plan by both the husband and the wife. The couple works together (usually) to select the perfect bull (the man who will fuck the wife) and derive great pleasure and excitement from it.

There’s a common misconception that hotwifing is simply a form of cuckolding, because oftentimes the husband is either watching or participating in the wife’s sexual exploits (although sometimes he prefers to simply hear her retell the story of how everything went down). The difference is this -traditional cuckolding involves a level of degradation and humiliation (albeit, consensual degradation and humiliation). The husband is often laughed at for his lack of sexual prowess or manhood. Whereas in hotwifing the husband and wife’s connection plays an important role. The couple together call the shots, set the ground rules, select the bull, and bond over the experience as a unit. The husband derives pleasure from his wife’s freedom to enjoy sex without limitations and restrictions. He is neither mocked or degraded for this pleasure.

I don’t know about you, but when I hear the word, “cuckold”, I automatically picture a guy sitting in a corner with a flaccid penis watching his wife enjoying sex with a rock hard, stallion of a man. I don’t picture a loving couple drawn together from a shared sexual experience with an outsider.

Check out New Sensations’ I Love My Hotwife and tell me what you think. Is hotwifing just another extension of cuckolding? Or is it a sexual experience combining the emotional connections of marriage with the physical excitement of being single?  

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About Jacky St. James

Jacky St. James is an award winning writer and director for New Sensations.

She is known for creating a wide range of films, from romantic comedies to edgier all-sex releases, with her most acclaimed titles being: The Submission of Emma Marx, Torn, and Our Father. 

Throughout her career in adult, she has been an advocate of couple's-oriented pornography and has been featured in several popular mainstream publications including Salon, Jezebel, Slate, The Huffington Post, and others. St. James shares pictures, clips, and stories about her successes and debacles as a woman working within the adult industry on her website, missjackystjames.com.