Top Japanese Kinks for Your Next Date Night

I want to tell you about my favorite Japanese kinks to explore on date nights. I’ve been with my wife for ten years now, so we do what we can to avoid a lesbian bed death.

“Lesbian bed death is the concept that lesbian couples in committed relationships have less sex than any other type of couple the longer the relationship lasts and generally experience less sexual intimacy as a consequence.”

Kinksters don’t give up, though! That’s why we love having kink-themed date nights to keep things fun, flirty, and fresh. The inspiration came from a show we were watching. This married couple meets at a hotel every year on their anniversary. They created alter-egos that meet once a year for a date and have drinks and dinner before exploring naughty fantasies that they might have never explored as “themselves.”

For beginners, it's simple enough not to be intimidating but sufficiently naughty to give you the adrenaline rush excitement you might be craving on date night. Sex has always been a big part of Japanese culture, and unlike in the US, their religion doesn’t make sexuality taboo.

“In fact, such a concept [kink] would seem completely ridiculous to the ancient Japanese. Japan’s indigenous religion, Shinto, is based on animism. They believe that supernatural beings dwell in nature. One of their oldest myths is an example of why our bodies are not seen as something wrong, bad, or shameful. To them and me, sex is a part of nature, an action that brings love, pleasure, joy, and even life.

Gods and goddesses in Shinto are called kami. The myth says that the last generation of kami born from the divine universe’s energy was Izanagi Okami and Izanami Okami. They were also the very first kami who got married.

According to the myth, Izanagi Okami famously pointed out that he has something “extra,” that Izanami Okami has something “less,” and that something good might happen if his “extra part” would compliment the part she did not have. This is how the two kamis are said to have discovered sex.

The two kami were able to create many children, including the islands of Japan and the millions of kami that live there. Even the most religious Japanese people view sexuality as an innate part of life itself.”

The lack of shame associated with sex has created a unique set of kinks and fetishes. Japan has an immense kink spectrum that goes from getting aroused by girls with pointed canine teeth or “yaeba girl” to “tentacle erotica.” Tentacle erotica would be more precisely translated as tentacle violation or tentacle rape, and it integrates elements of bestiality and a fantasy, horror, or science-fiction theme. It is usually seen in hentai videos even though you could role play and bring this kink to life with the proper accessories and a little imagination.

If bestiality, horror, and tentacle are a bit much for your next date night, these are top Japanese kinks you should try:

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Nyotaimori (女体盛り) means to serve food on the female body, and Nantaimori (男体盛り) is the male equivalent.

“It is the Japanese practice of serving sashimi or sushi from the naked body of a woman.”

I love this so much. Bringing food into sex always spices things up and turns up the heat!

But there is something extra sexy about staring at your lover and thinking about what you are going to eat next. There’s a kinkster honor code, so I’m going to be honest. I would not mind being covered in sushi or fresh fruit and being stared at like I am fresh meat about to be devoured. Do you want to be on the table covered in food or sitting at the table and eating off your lover?

Ahegao:

“Is a term in Japanese pornography for an exaggerated facial expression of characters (usually women) during sex. Typical characteristics are rolled or crossed eyes, a hanging tongue, and flushed cheeks. A character's overall face shape may also be distorted in ahegao scenes. Depictions of ahegao are often intentionally exaggerated to create a surreal effect. An ahegao face of various distortion levels is used to depict different grades of sexual arousal. Ahegao indicates that the pleasure experienced is so intense that the character loses control of their facial expression.”

I have friends that say they would never be comfortable making “silly faces” in the middle of sex, but I always remind them you should never yuck anyone’s yum until you’ve tried it. I know women who have tried it, and maybe it didn’t do anything for them sexually but seeing their partner build like a volcano was precisely what they wanted for a Japanese kink-themed special date night.

Zettai Ryokiu:

“Is a very famous kink known by many anime fans that refers to the bare skin between a girl’s knee socks and short skirts. It is also known as delicious thighs, and there are precise proportions of sock to thigh to skirt that make or break the fantasy. It is a top-choice fetish in Japan.”

School girl outfits aren’t really my cup of tea, but zettai ryokiu is, for me, all about teasing. Maybe there’s a fantasy you’ve always wanted to role play, an outfit, accessory, or toy you want to play with. This is an invitation to use just a little, to expose just enough to start building the erotic energy that will elevate your date night.

Watching porn with your partner is a great way to figure out what common grounds you can explore when it comes to kinks. If your partner doesn’t enjoy watching, you could make a little list and have a conversation about things you would like to try together. When it comes to talking about sex, you have to be very respectful and patient if you want to seduce and convince your partner to try something new. I hope this helps you and your lover(s) try something new and have a very kinky Japanese themed date night!