Mastering the Keyboard: How to Sext Like a Pro

From Eggplants to Eloquent Dirty Talk: A Beginner’s Guide on How to Sext

Ah, sexting: the saucy ping-pong of suggestive words, flirty emojis, and maybe the occasional voice note that keeps the fire burning when you’re apart—or even when you’re in the same room, let’s not judge. But let’s face it, dear reader, crafting a juicy, enticing sext is more of an art than a science. You’re not just shooting off random eggplant and peach emojis (we hope); you’re flirting, teasing, and creating a shared fantasy. So, if your sexts currently read like a dry instruction manual, allow me to help you find your way to poetic eroticism.

Sexting aims to entice and seduce, not race toward the finish line like an impatient sprinter. If impatience is your main challenge when trying to get your partner in the mood, check out my post about foreplay for the impatient. This is about building tension and feeding anticipation. The goal here is not to unload your dirtiest line but to take baby steps into your partner’s imagination, luring them in. Think striptease, not streaking.

Step 1

Consider sexting the foreplay of the digital world. You wouldn't go straight to sending an unsolicited nude (please don’t). Ease into the conversation by weaving in just a hint of naughtiness. Something as simple as, “Thinking about that thing you did last weekend…” or “If I whispered what I’m imagining, I’m pretty sure you’d blush.” You’ve sparked the match; now let them light the fire.

Step 2

How you define your sexting style (is it playful, bold, or XXX) depends on your and your partner’s comfort zones and preferences. A simple “Can’t wait to have my hands on you tonight” works wonders without tipping into R-rated waters. Feeling riskier? Up the stakes to, “Which body part do you want me to kiss/massage/spank first?”

Sprinkle in emojis (judiciously, dear reader). A “” goes a long way without making you cringe, but remember: placement is everything. Nobody I know would get turned out from receiving a string of emojis you have to decipher.

Step 3

Sexting is storytelling, and the key here is description. Most people don’t want a robotic “Do X, then Y.” Instead, engage all five senses. Try: “I can still taste you on my lips from last time, and it’s driving me wild. Want to do something about it?” See that? Sensory and suggestive, it leaves just enough room for their imagination to take over, and you’re ending with an open invitation to more fun.

Step 4

Your partner’s day matters here. Sending, “I want you on your knees, now,” when they’re deep in a work meeting with their boss risks mortification and potential career repercussions. Check-in first: “Are you somewhere you can be a little naughty with me? ” It respects their time and ensures they can give your sext the attention it deserves. Alternatively, when the timing is perfect (you know, lounging in bed post-midnight), pull no punches.

Step 5

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Sometimes words aren’t enough, and that’s where voice notes and images come in. A softly whispered, “I wish I could feel your hands on my skin right now” can amp up erotic energy like nothing else. If voice notes feel intimidating, consider a steamy GIF (bonus points for humor!) or a well-angled selfie that hints without showing all the goods.

If you’re going to dabble in nudes, remember that angles are your friend, lighting should be soft, and confidence is your biggest asset. Oh, and always double-check who you’re sending it to before hitting send. Accidental group texts are a nightmare no one needs.

Step 6

Sexting isn’t a monologue; it’s a duet. Ask your partner questions to keep the ball (and hopefully their pulse) rolling: “What would you do to me if you were here right now?” or “Which part of me do you miss most?” The goal is to pry open their imagination while also letting them steer the fantasy.

Step 7

At the end of the day, this isn’t an Olympic sport. Sexting should be creative, funny, and pleasurable for both of you. If you fumble, laugh it off and try again. Feel silly? Embrace it. The vulnerability is part of what makes it intimate.

When learning how to sext, there is one golden rule: confidence is the sexiest thing you can bring to the table—or the text thread. Whether you're spinning sultry fantasies, sending daring lines, or crafting playful innuendos, the key is to stay in your comfort zone while teasing them just out of theirs. Get cheeky. Get creative. Get specific. And remember, the hotter your texts, the more sparks you'll have waiting to ignite in real life.

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