How to Fuck Like A Porn Star

Anyone can have amazing, mind-blowing, kinky porn sex. There’s no recipe, no steps to follow, and there are no rules when it comes to sex. The bottom line is that there is no “right way” to fuck. Audrey Hollander, Ebony Mystique, Cherie DeVille, and Damon Dice have advice for everyone that wants to fuck like a porn star.

Dear reader, don’t be scared or intimidated if you think you’ve been following the “formula” for years. If what you are doing works for you, you are doing it right. But sex does not have to start with kissing, moving towards the bedroom, touching, sucking, etc.

One of the most fascinating and magical things about porn is the chemistry and passion between the actors. It’s interesting if you think about it… there are things you would probably never think about doing during sex, people you wouldn’t consider fucking, and kinks you never expected would turn you on. And then, one day, you’re watching porn, and magic happens! You get wet, you get hard, and fantasy is born.

I have recently had the amazing opportunity to talk to adult actresses and actors, including Audrey Hollander, Ebony Mystique, Cherie DeVille, and Damon Dice, about sexual education. Sex-ed isn’t just about biology and STIs. These professionals are willing and available to help us all have safer and more satisfactory sex lives because kink and fantasy don’t have to be a naughty secret you keep to yourself.

I am trying to figure out the secret to amazing kinky porn sex. I have been consistently surprised by the answers I get from professionals. There is no secret.

Audrey Hollander told me that:

The ONLY thing you NEED if you want to fuck like a porn star is honesty.

She explained that when she gets stuck creatively in her personal sex life or with her content, she goes out with friends willing to be honest and open about their fantasies. For her, inspiration comes from being honest about your fantasies, not from watching what other people are doing and trying to imitate them.

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Because of her medical background, Ebony Mystique’s point of view is about knowing your body, what feels good to you, and being able to communicate that honestly and openly. She told me that, for her, communication is the secret to becoming a better lover:

Know your body first. If you aren’t tuned in to what you like, your wants, what makes you feel good, how can someone else do it to the full extent? And when they like it, keep doing that, right there.

I asked Ebony what “fucking like a pornstar” means to her, and she said that everything has a time and a place. Sex doesn’t have to start with kissing, but if you want to start with anal, you must ensure that your partner is in-synch with you. Communicate and listen to what your partner wants.

Professional porn movies are precisely that… professional productions. For example, if you’re cleaning a girl’s pool, it’s most likely not ok for you to walk into her house and start fucking her before her husband gets home. But, if that is your fantasy, you can talk with the girl, make sure you’re on the same page, and fuck like there’s no tomorrow before you get caught. You could even talk to your partner and role-play your fantasy.

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Cherie DeVille, Fleshbot’s 2021 Total Package, has been active in the industry for over a decade. She is a legend and has enough experience and knowledge to get us all fucking like pros! I asked Cherie what advice she has for people who want to improve their sex lives and bring fantasy and kink into their bedrooms. She brought up something that I hadn’t really even considered:

Especially here in the US, a lot of people are raised with shameful ideas about sex and what their bodies should look like or shouldn’t look like, what sex should be like and what it shouldn’t be like, how much sex are you having, if it’s too much you’re a slut, but if it’s not enough you’re a prude… shame, shame, shame, shame!

 I honestly hadn’t considered that this is why we’re ok watching things privately but not ok talking about it and saying we are into something that isn’t vanilla. There’s so much shame regarding sex! It’s hard for Cherie DeVille to understand because her parents didn’t put that burden on her. I can relate to her because I was raised in a very sex-positive household where the only thing “bad” about sex was unwanted consequences. I was taught to use protection to avoid STIs and pregnancies I wasn’t ready for. That transparency didn’t encourage me to be more active sexually. I actually regret not being sluttier! It just taught me to be responsible for the consequences of my decisions.

As for what people should do to fuck like a pornstar, Cherie said:

I think that the most beautiful thing you can do with any partner is communicating. It’s so vulnerable to say that, but the more vulnerable and real that you can communicate with your partner to create a beautiful, safe space, you can just say something weird that pops in your head, you know? Say something about a fantasy that you have, even if you know that you wouldn’t do it in real life. Have someone you can have those beautiful, safe conversations with, even if it starts with a sex worker on an OnlyFans page, so you can get used to it and then bring that safe energy into the bedroom. This is really, really beautiful to me.

If you want to watch porn to do it, to talk, look at erotic pictures or an erotic novel… whatever feels right for you as long as you’re communicating in a shame-free space- I think you’re going to grow and find out so much about yourself, about your partner, and it’s going to be what you want it to be.

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As a successful male performer, Damon Dice also has a unique and valuable perspective on sexual education.

I tell people, if you want to learn about sex and how to have sex, don’t watch porn. Most porn is created for male audiences, so a lot of things like aggressive porn and daddy/misogynistic porn aren’t what you want to teach young and impressionable men. Because they see things in porn and think it’s ok to treat women like that.

 Damon Dice admits that there are websites that have more realistic sexual scenarios and may be more educational than others. He describes himself as a “sexual athlete” and said that the positions in porn scenes aren’t meant to be pleasurable; they are meant to look good on camera, give good visual angles, and “shouldn’t be tried at home.” If you and your partner are into aggressive hard-core porn sex, or missionary with the lights out, power to you! But it's important to communicate what you like and what you don't to avoid fucking horror stories.

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It’s fascinating to consider that if we recognize that porn is a professional production meant for the viewing pleasure of (mostly) men, we have taken the first step towards making that fantasy real for you. Fucking like a porn star is not about imitating scenes, and it’s not about having years of experience fucking different people and learning. Everybody is different, and every body is different. What felt good for one partner might not be your next lover’s cup of tea. But if you see something that turns you on, you communicate that honestly to your partner, and you listen to what they like and want- you are already fucking like a porn star.