Top 6 Strap-On Sex Positions 101: Time to Harness the Heat

Simple Strap-On Sex Positions That Will Crank Up Your Pleasure

So, you’ve got a strap-on ready to go, and now you’re wondering exactly how to heat things up in the bedroom. Well, you’re in the right place because today, we’re strapping in (and on!). Whether you’re a first-time explorer or a seasoned bedroom adventurer, understanding the dynamics of different strap-on sex positions ensures that everyone involved gets the maximum sensation and satisfaction. These simple positions are about building connection, hitting those deliciously deep angles, and making sure both partners are fully engaged in the experience.

#6 The "Lazy Lover" (Missionary’s Naughty Sibling)

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Think of this as "Missionary, but with attitude!"

• The receiving partner lies on their back with their legs widely spread and knees bent up toward their chest. They could roll their hips up slightly for deeper penetration.
• The penetrating partner kneels between their partner's legs, guiding the strap-on for maximum control over the movements. A helpful tip? Go slow at first, and keep eye contact! This position allows excellent face-to-face romantic connection, especially effective during a long strap-on session.

Why it’s perfect for strap-ons: Not only do hands stay free here for both parties (hello, clit or chest play!), but the alignment in this position makes it much easier for the penetrating partner to control depth, angle, and pressure, ensuring no one's left wanting.

#5 The "Riveting Rocket" (Standing V-Thrust)

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Take things vertical for a stand-up power play.

• Both partners stand for this one. The receiving partner supports themselves by leaning against a wall or propping their hands on a higher surface while standing.
• The penetrating partner stands behind, thrusting the strap-on in at an upward angle into their partner—bonus points for wrapping an arm around them or using a waistband harness to secure balance.

Why it’s perfect for strap-ons: Standing sex can be incredibly exciting and dynamic, especially when using a strap-on. It's playful and balances control and submission, and for the anatomically inclined, this position can offer terrific angles for G-spot or prostate stimulation. Plus, if you're in the mood to switch between standing and bending, this position transitions easily into "Desk Dive."

#4 The "Desk Dive" (Standing Doggy Style)

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Sometimes, you need a sturdy piece of furniture and the desire to get good and naughty. That’s where "Desk Dive" comes in:

• The receiving partner leans forward over a solid surface, like a bed or—ahem— a desk, feet planted firmly on the ground with their legs slightly spread. Their arms can help stabilize them on the surface (assisting with that sexy arch), or they can prop themselves up.
• The penetrating partner stands behind the receiving partner, guiding the strap-on between their legs to deliver thrusts from a position of heightened control. Pro tip: try a slightly bent-knee stance for best leverage.

Why it’s perfect for strap-ons: Doggy-style in any variation offers the ability to adjust to everyone's pleasure points. The positioning helps the penetrating partner get deep, angles the hips, and allows the hands to roam—whether gripping hips for extra momentum or adding external stimulation elsewhere.

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#3 The "Let’s Ride" (Cowgirl/Reverse Cowgirl with a Twist)

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Take the classic "cowgirl" position and spice it up with a strap-on! Here's how:

• The receiving partner should straddle the penetrating partner by sitting on top of them, either facing them (Cowgirl) or with their back to them (Reverse Cowgirl).
• The receiving partner controls the pace here for maximum pleasure, creating a customizable experience. This also gives them full access to massage their own sweet spots (or let the penetrating partner lend a hand).

Why it’s perfect for strap-ons: This position puts gravity and control in the receiving partner’s hands (or hips!). It lets them adjust the angle and depth to maximize their pleasure while giving the penetrating partner a perfect view (and reach!) to engage in all kinds of stimulating fun.

#2 The "Captain's Chair" (Reverse Lap Dance)

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Don’t let the name fool you—this one is hot, not just for lap dances!

• The penetrating partner sits comfortably on a sturdy chair or couch, with legs spread apart for stability.
• The receiving partner stands with their back toward the seated partner, slowly lowering themselves onto the strap-on. They can move their hips back and forth or up and down ("grinding" mode)—all about rhythm and pressure without the need for a bed or large furniture.

Why it’s perfect for strap-ons: When the receiving partner’s back is to the penetrating partner, this opens up a world of hand-use opportunities, either for spanking, stroking against their own body, or working in an external vibrator. And trust me, you’ll want to get creative when things heat up!

#1 The "Scissoring Soiree" (The Scissor Play Position)

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Maybe you’ve seen it on the screen, but this one’s all about some real-life fun.

• Lay side by side, facing each other with both partners’ legs intertwined. The receiving partner lifts one leg to create an opening angle for the penetrating partner to push the strap-on into place.
• Once the strap-on is inside, partners can rock or grind against each other. It's an intimate, body-on-body style of low-key thrusting—but the entire focus is on the deep, grinding connection between two bodies.

Why it’s perfect for strap-ons: Angle, angle, angle! Each partner's leg positioning creates deeper access. Plus, this one offers a lot of torso-to-torso contact. Hands can roam, lips can meet, and you’ve got a surefire position to get some serious skin-to-skin connection.

Why it’s perfect for strap-ons: Standing sex can be incredibly exciting and dynamic, especially when using a strap-on. It's playful and balances control and submission, and for the anatomically inclined, this position can offer terrific angles for G-spot or prostate stimulation. Plus, if you're in the mood to switch between standing and bending, this position transitions easily into "Desk Dive."

Strap-ons equal endless possibilities. From finding new levels of intimacy to unlocking angles you may not achieve with natural anatomy, using a strap-on can help you break free of traditional boundaries and have some seriously fun exploration. And hey, whether you’re giving or receiving, all these positions are designed with pleasure in mind for both partners! Really lean into exploring what works for your body and mood. Don’t be shy about adjusting, tweaking, or pulling in toys to change up sensations. After all, the right strap-on sex position isn’t just about the strap—it’s about maximizing intimacy, sensation, and connection across the board.

If you’re a fan of using strap-ons, you might be more than familiar with these positions. For more sex-positive fun and educational advice, stay tuned. Part 2, which will offer more innovative and adventurous positions, will be available soon.

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