An adult content creator appears to have taken her own life.

What makes her story so unusual not that she was an OnlyFans star, but the way she chose to present herself to the world.

Using herself as a model, Diana Deets created a character of which she named Coconut Kitty. The controversy came in when it was revealed that the creation of the character included heavy digital edits of her image.

In many of her edits, she made herself appear to be significantly younger than she was in real life. In real life, she’s either 25 or 30 (depending on the source), but online, she makes herself look much younger, let’s call it a barely legal, lolita sort of look.

Of course, even if Deets isn’t editing her own image to look like a minor, she is editing her own image to make herself look younger — a fairly common, if not somewhat controversial, trope in the adult industry, in which age play is a popular subgenre.

Stars like Little Lupe Fuentes, Piper Perri, Coco Lovelock, Jimmy Michaels, and Spikey Dee are in high demand because they look so young.

Deets denies that she’s trying to cultivate an audience that is attracted to very young women, claiming she intended Coconut Kitty merely as a generic bombshell figure and that she has never marketed herself as a teenager.

“How old is Jessica Rabbit, do you know? Is Jessica Rabbit her real name?” she asks me rhetorically. “The character I have created is no different.”

Given that her general aesthetic is less Lolita and more Rock of Love contestant, that argument does hold some water; furthermore, though Day and other TikTokers have cited lewd and pedophilic comments in Coconut Kitty’s page, I could find very few that deviated from the template for generic expressions of internet horniness. When I put her unedited photos into FaceApp and applied the child filter, they did not look at all like her Coconut Kitty persona. While that’s not to say there are no minor-attracted people following her page, it suggests the criticism that she was intentionally trying to cultivate such a following may have been exaggerated.

Deets says she wasn’t shy about the fact that she heavily edited her image, referring to her profession as “art and magic” in her Instagram bio and not deleting older photos on her page. She had some reservations about editing her own face to such an extent — mostly about promoting unrealistic or unhealthy beauty standards — but she figured all the big magazines used tools like Photoshop so why couldn’t she? Plus, using a heavily filtered version of her own face helped distance herself from some of the painful critiques she would get while camming. “Whether they say you’re pretty or ugly or your boobs are lopsided or this or that, it doesn’t matter because it was literally a character I created,” Deets says. Coconut Kitty “gave me an opportunity to disassociate myself” from the criticism.

Her story went viral and she was getting a lot of online hate about editing her photos and videos. But is it really any different than what we all do?

A notice of her death was posted on her Instagram account on Sunday Febraury 19, and it said the following:

Last Sunday, Coconut took her own life. It’s unfair. Life isn’t fair. We wish you guys could get to know her the way her friends and family did. She was such a light to this world, truly, she was always glowing. You could never slow that girl down. She was so hard headed and strong, but also just so kind. With the biggest heart we have ever known.

She was always trying to lift everyone up around her, she wanted everyone to win. She always took in animals that needed a home. She was the type of person who would drop everything to help you with your problems and would always be in your corner.

She would go to war for you if anyone ever dare try to hurt someone she loved. That smile of hers could light up a whole room, it would turn your whole day around. And her laugh. Her laugh was so contagious. She was so funny. She would get you to laugh till you couldn’t breathe. She loved to dance and sing, and just be herself.

She was always her true self with her family and friends. Her energy was so pure. And we wish so much that we could have taken some of the darkness that was weighing on her heart. She always felt so deeply, with her whole body, mind, and soul. She loved creating.

She loved to make art and to express herself and we know a lot of you loved her too and she was always so grateful for you all. She was so strong for so long. She was amazing and just a beautiful person. We miss her so much and life is never going to be the same without her.

She was a mom, a sister, a daughter, a best friend and a role model for so many of you. Above all she loved her kids and being a mom. Her kids were her whole world. She was devoted to them and she wanted to make sure that they were loved. And they were so loved.

All we ask is that you check on your friends and loved ones. You never truly know what someone is going through. Call them and tell them you love them. You never know how much time you’ll have left with the people you love. We love you forever Coconut, rest easy beautiful.

In closing I just want to remind you that everyone edits their photos. Every porn star. Every celebrity. It’s a very common practice. To vilanize a woman for doing what we all do, to the point where she took her own life says more about us as a society than it does about the woman who made the edits.